If you're a mom, you know that every stage of motherhood has its trials and tribulations. Some days are great and some...not so much. When we had our third child, we already had a 3 year old and a little one who had just turned 2, so things were overwhelming at times. I'll never forget the nurse in the hospital telling me that it will be so fun when they were all a bit older and everybody would run and jump in bed with us. She was right. To this day, my husband and I still talk about those fun mornings when he'd just whistle and we'd hear the stomping of little feet running our way.
A blog/computer friend, Saloma, shared this video which she had seen on another blog and I asked if I could share it as well. The author is reading from her book about how truly wonderful just the "ordinary" days are and those are the ones that will come to mean the most.
My youngest went away to school last week and after a week of tears and phone calls, she's decided to come back home. She was met with a lot of resistance, as were we, about what's the best thing to do ~ and everyone shared their opinions with us, whether we asked or not. :) "Don't let her", "Do let her", "Don't make her stay", "Make her stay", "Here's what I would do..." In the end it was her decision, right or wrong. She'll be fine and so will we.
My favorite line from this video is when she said, "All flowers bloom in their own time," and I couldn't agree more. When all is said and done, this week is not the one thing that will stand out in our minds when we think of Sara ~ it's all of the ordinary days we spent with not only her but our other two children, and with each other as well. All those regular good ol' things are "the stuff that dreams are made of."
The Gift Of An Ordinary Day from Katrina Kenison on Vimeo.
21 comments:
Your daughter has given up on school? Oh no! What is she going to do?
Sorry to hear you have had a stressful time. I've been there too, I made my elder son go back and have another go, but he still came home after a few more weeks. It just wasn't right for him. My younger son just went and we didn't see him for dust! They are all different and each must find their own way. Hugs for you all.
@ Suburb. Princess - She doesn't want to be so far away. She's still planning on going to school, just closer to home. ♥
Isn't that great how Saloma shared that clip and it both inspired and comforted you at just the right time? There are no coincidences. 7hearts;
Monica - My thoughts EXACTLY! The timing was definitely HIS. I also meant to add in this about how you said it's just as important to know what you "don't" want as it is to know what you "do" want. That helped a lot also. ♥
I think it's wonderful to be able to come back to a family with open arms!
Great thoughts all around - the post and the comments.
It is a hard thing when you think one of your grown kids is going to go one direction and then they go another. I have definately had this happen.
But you raise them to be good people and then they get to the point where they really do need to make their own decisions. Unless it is something horrible, as parents we support and love them.
You are doing great!!
I think it is so sweet and a testament of how much she loves her family and her home that she wants to be closer.
My first time commenting to you, except for your guest post over at Joyful Chaos!
Somehow, things always work out in the end. When our son graduated from high school he had just won a national competition as a CNC programmer/machinist...something he had taken up his senior year of high school to prepare him for a career in engineering. After high school, though, college took a backseat to an apprenticeship he so badly wanted, and was accepted in, in California (we live in Michigan). We didn't want him to go. He wanted nothing else. We let him go. We had to. It was by far the hardest thing I've ever done, as a parent, (we also have an older daughter) to let our (then) 18 year old move across the country. After six months, he came home. The company wasn't what it promised and he was so very homesick.
It all worked out though. Even though he still doesn't want to go the college route (has taken a few classes) he has a job that he loves, he's good at it, and there's potential to move up. He just bought a house! And he's 21 years old!
If we'd have kept him from trying out the apprenticeship in CA, then he would have always wondered what if...plus he would have blamed us for keeping him home. :)
Beth, I am SO glad I said something helpful because if not, I was going to mention that there's still a box full of leftover unsolicited advice over here. We can put it out on the front porch if you want to come by and get some when we're not home.
But seriously, it was Sarah's decision and you all really will be fine. She has many promising buds and will bloom in her own time.
Just wanted to say hi!!! So thankful for the ordinary days, too!!!!!
Sorry about your hard week, some decisions are so hard to make. Our daughter did this also when she wanted to go to school, lasted a few days and came home. She went on to take courses on line. All worked out fine. Sometimes they just need a little time.
Sorry about your hard week, some decisions are so hard to make. Our daughter did this also when she wanted to go to school, lasted a few days and came home. She went on to take courses on line. All worked out fine. Sometimes they just need a little time.
I'm so sorry to hear the college experience wasn't what everyone hoped it would be. Thank you for loving her back home; you will never regreat it. Only your family can decide what is the best route for her situation; stand firm in that.
I've been concerned for you because you haven't shared the usual feelings about a child that's left the house. You'll see that things will work out; hugs to you, friend, and one for your daughter.
When she's ready, she'll go. Obviously she missed the ordinary days with her folks.
Your grandmother was a wise woman. Only your daughter knows for sure what is right for her.
My son put off college for a year, and it turned out to work well for him. I hope you have a similar experience.
Your grandmother was a wise woman. Only your daughter knows for sure what is right for her.
My son put off college for a year, and it turned out to work well for him. I hope you have a similar experience.
Ill take an ordinary day anytime! Not to loud, not too quiet... just right!
I need to cherish the ordinary days more. Thanks for this post. Sorry that it didn't work out but I can totally understand her wanting to be close to home. Being away for the first time is not easy on anyone.
OK Beth...I don't know how I missed this post! But I like the comment above, and it made me smile because I can see it now...you and Scott welcoming her back with open arms. She will figure it all out...on her own time. Hugs to you all!
About the video...bawling...I am just to emotional for these videos, but yet I loved every moment of it. I am going to try harder to cherish these ordinary days.
What an amazing video. I will never take "ordinary" for granted ever again.
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What an amazing video. I will never take those "ordinary days" for granted ever again . . .
I have nominated you for a One Lovely Blog award!
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